A reality paradigm and an understanding for insight (Part 3).

– Posted in: Psychology, Success, Wellbeing


If we can slow our thoughts down, and let go of our unhelpful thoughts (and these are usually thoughts about thoughts about thoughts) we can create an amazing connection with the moment, with a person, or a group of people. By approaching a situation with nothing in mind, not thinking about the past or about the future and letting go of meaning we might have, we can have a much better experience of ‘the moment’ that when we are thinking too much.

Sports men and women will say that they are in ‘the zone’; psychologists refer to a ‘state of flow’, a spiritualist ‘being at one with the universe’. This state of ‘higher consciousness’ is often referred to as experiencing the ‘Universal mind’. Theosopher Sydney Banks uses the term as part of his principle based approach to life – the three principles of Universal Mind, Universal Consciousness and Universal Thought.

A physicist might call this ‘mind’ part of the ‘Implicate Order’, while religious people might talk of the ‘Spirit of God’ living within us. Ervin László (the Hungarian philosopher of science, systems theorist, integral theorist, and classical pianist) refers to it as “quantum consciousness” and a Star Wars fan would refer to ‘The Force’. The concept has been around for a long time.

Deepak Chopra (Indian medical doctor, public speaker, and writer) suggests that “intelligence exists at a subatomic level” and I recently heard a physicist point out that biology, quantum physics, cosmology and consciousness are all the same thing. I am not going to try to explain what theoretical physicist Stephen Hawking says! However, the consensus is that no one can definitively describe the way mind works, or how it is connected to the subatomic world, but we can all experience it. The mind and body are one system, nothing can happen in one without it affecting the other.

We all know that we have a physical immune system that fights bacterial and viral infections and repairs physical injuries. This is just part of our neuro-physiological immune system. Less noticeable is our mental immune system that maintains our emotional wellbeing. We were all born with an innate wellbeing, which, when we have a clear mind and a high quality of thought, will always be present.

Many people use the expression “Time is a great healer”. It takes time for a broken bone to heal and it takes time to come to terms with the sudden change to our map of reality. Our mind and body will do its best to bring us back to a healthy equilibrium, to a state of wellbeing. Only our own thinking can suppress our innate wellbeing.

My behaviour, health and situation are just a ‘reflection’ of my past, and current, thinking.

The way to access your wellbeing is to notice that when you are feeling bad, or behaving in an unhelpful way, and to realise it is an indication that your thinking is suppressing your innate health and wellbeing.

Alcohol, drugs, cigarettes, fizzy sugary drinks, not exercising, mindless TV watching are all indications of unhelpful thoughts, or trying to suppress and ignore unhelpful thoughts.

Every day I try to avoid two mistakes.
1. Attributing happiness to external circumstances.
2. Attributing un-happiness to external circumstances.

Happiness and wellbeing are innate and are only one thought away.

Understanding this principle enables people to use their feelings as an ‘inner guidance system’. If you feel bad, uncomfortable or upset, know that that those feelings has been created by your mind, thoughts and consciousness. Reassess your thoughts to see if they are helping you or if there is something else you could think, and/or do, that would be better for you, so you can feel good instead, and create success. Before I had this understanding, I would try to think my way out of it by building on the thinking that was making me feel bad in the first place.
“Problems cannot be solved by the same level of thinking that created them.” Albert Einstein.

Someone recently said to me “Come on it, isn’t just about thinking. What happens if someone says something unkind to you and behaves in an unacceptable way, surely you are justified in feeling annoyed”. I responded by highlighting the following:
• The decision as to whether something is acceptable or unacceptable also takes some thought. It could be an instantaneous reaction but thought would drive that reaction.
• If you justify something you aim “To demonstrate or prove to be just, right, or valid”. This takes some thought.
• You cannot feel annoyed without having something about which to be annoyed (this could be an unrealised expectation, a thwarted intention or an undelivered communication). This takes some thought.
• We have to make judgements all the time. Our mind is continually modifying our map of reality. This takes some thought.

One of the secrets to making a great living doing work you love; is to let go of your false identity (the source of anxiety, worry & limitation) and connecting with your true identity, who you really are. Not whom you think you are.

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