Psychology

What are the three questions that will make a meeting more productive?

– Posted in: Business, Psychology, Success

Each of us has a different ‘reality’ to our peers, because of our different life experiences, and so we bring own unique paradigm to any meeting. This was emphasised to me during a team build event. Having failed miserably at a task, the whole team learnt the importance of clearly understanding the task objectives. How did we fail (not get the outcome we wanted)? We gave up, when we still had time to complete the task. This was because we had misinterpreted the instructions for the task. The instructions included the term ‘par time’, meaning the average time previous teams had taken to complete the task. As soon as we […]

Can a person get a thought virus? If we can, what ‘error message’ do we get?

– Posted in: Psychology, Success, Wellbeing

A virus is an infectious agent that can replicate only inside the living cells of an organism. A virus will attach its self to a cell, strip off its protein coating, burrow down to the cell’s nucleus, and reprogram the cell at a genetic level. The cell then goes on to divide into two, and so the virus spreads. So, the ‘error messages’ associated with a virus are the uncomfortable feelings of soreness, discomfort and a high temperature as your body fights the infection. In computer terms, to me, this would be like a virus in a computer’s operating system. Something that would make it vulnerable and interrupt the efficient […]

Postponed happiness

– Posted in: Psychology, Success, Wellbeing

“I’ll be happy when I... get this project over/ get a new job/ clear my loan/ get to the weekend.” is like saying “I won’t be happy until...”. Who would you like to hang around with? Is it better to be with happy, relaxed stress-free people, or people with ‘postponed happiness’ who seem to be in a constant state of stress while they work towards a stress-free future? Happiness does not come from success. Success comes from happiness. Too many people take the past, project it into the future, and live in the present as if the future is fixed. What would the world be like if we could all […]

Circumstances do not cause stress, unhappiness or frustration.

– Posted in: Psychology, Success, Wellbeing

Stressful, unhappy or frustrated thoughts cause stress, unhappiness or frustration. These feelings are labels we give to our conscious awareness of changes in the balance of our body chemistry (our endocrine system). We notice these feelings in our body; our stomach ‘turning over’; ‘butterflies’ in our stomach; tension in our shoulders or neck; or a ‘knot’ in our stomach. Our brain controls our body chemistry without us being consciously aware of making any adjustments – we only notice the change just after it has happened. Our unconscious mind is constantly making changes to our blood sugar, body temperature, hormones and heart rate. We do not do this consciously, it is […]

You don’t need to get confidence…

– Posted in: Business, Psychology, Success

... because you have it already. I am interested in the fact that we had no problem with self-belief when we were babies. We had the confidence to be self-expressed whenever we wanted (at the top of our lungs if we thought it was necessary). The difficulty many people experience is that their own thinking suppresses their inherent well-being. You can hold a beach ball underwater with a little effort but as soon as you let it go, it will pop straight up to the surface. Something happens when a person realises the amount of energy they are wasting suppressing their innate creativity with their own insecure thinking. When they […]

A plausible goal.

– Posted in: Business, Psychology, Success

My brother created this diagram (click on it for larger image) to help him make a decision and asked me where I would put base-jumping on the curve. This was my reply (long winded I know but I thought I should apply my process). I like the idea of base-jumping but I stop myself from doing it. In my experience, anything that might stop me from achieving a desirable outcome will fall into the following nine areas: 1. Information: - I don’t know anything about what is required to base-jump but I could find out. 2. Skill: - I have proved I can jump off things so I just need […]

“The abusive ratings of an uninformed bigot”

– Posted in: Psychology

It has been a surprise for me that some people do not understand the damage they can do, to their own reputation, when using on-line forums. Their anonymity allows them to communicate in a manner that would be outside their normal behaviour. You only have to look at the behaviour described as ‘Road Rage’ to know that the anonymity a car provides can enable considerable changes in a person’s conduct. The enraged people are oblivious to the effect that they may have on themselves and the people around them. For a professional to use social media to trash their own reputation, so publically, they must have something seemingly important on […]

Essex NLP and the Three Principles of Innate Health – Meetup group.

– Posted in: Business, Psychology, Wellbeing

I have just started a Meetup group that is, effectively, a 'Mastermind Group' investigating principle based psychology, Neuro-linguistic programming (NLP) and trance states, to generate balance and success. The members learn how to create amazing possibilities for their future: • multiple income streams • powerful presentation skills • confidence • happiness • self-esteem and a serenity of spirit • decreased levels of stress • a desirable work–life balance • self-reliance • motivation • a secure belief in the ability to create success in every area of life. No knowledge is required - just a curiosity to learn. Gaining control over ‘State of Mind’ is the key to create an immediate […]

Happiness

– Posted in: Psychology, Wellbeing

I believe that our natural state is happy. The balance of endocrine system (hormones) is controlled by our mind - driven by our unconscious thoughts. Emotions, like happiness and fear, are names we give to our conscious awareness of the changes we feel. The feeling of adrenaline and cortisone; we call fear or excitement. The enjoyment created by neuro-transmitters such as and serotonin, dopamine and endorphins; we call happiness. Our experience of life is created from our minds, thoughts and consciousness. For instance, when we dream, we create a reality and then experience it. When we are awake, we create a reality using the same parts of our brain, the […]

A thought development experiment: What possibilities will you create in the next seven minutes?

– Posted in: Business, Psychology, Wellbeing

Hi, Steve here. I have something cool for you to try. What are two powerful questions that, when asked, increase your ability to create success - every time you use them? What are the questions that focus the minds’ of everyone involved and often initiate creative conversations? • “What do you want?” • “How will you know when you’ve got it?” The power lies in the thoughts, ideas and resulting conversations, the questions initiate. When used elegantly and with careful intent they encourage creativity, accountability and confidence. Here is a more focused rendition of the first question. I ask this at the beginning of a meeting: “If you could get […]