stress

Postponed happiness

– Posted in: Psychology, Success, Wellbeing

“I’ll be happy when I... get this project over/ get a new job/ clear my loan/ get to the weekend.” is like saying “I won’t be happy until...”. Who would you like to hang around with? Is it better to be with happy, relaxed stress-free people, or people with ‘postponed happiness’ who seem to be in a constant state of stress while they work towards a stress-free future? Happiness does not come from success. Success comes from happiness. Too many people take the past, project it into the future, and live in the present as if the future is fixed. What would the world be like if we could all […]

Circumstances do not cause stress, unhappiness or frustration.

– Posted in: Psychology, Success, Wellbeing

Stressful, unhappy or frustrated thoughts cause stress, unhappiness or frustration. These feelings are labels we give to our conscious awareness of changes in the balance of our body chemistry (our endocrine system). We notice these feelings in our body; our stomach ‘turning over’; ‘butterflies’ in our stomach; tension in our shoulders or neck; or a ‘knot’ in our stomach. Our brain controls our body chemistry without us being consciously aware of making any adjustments – we only notice the change just after it has happened. Our unconscious mind is constantly making changes to our blood sugar, body temperature, hormones and heart rate. We do not do this consciously, it is […]