The Three Principles

Thought process models: NLP to the Three Principles and back.

– Posted in: Free Video, Psychology, Success, Video

In this video, I discuss the standard NLP model, Trevor Silvester's Memory Matrix and the Neuro-logical levels model from Robert Dilts. My objective for this video (recorded several years ago) was to describe my understanding of the underlying principles on which Neuro-linguistic programming is based and how it integrated in to my new understanding of the Three Principles. However, The Three Principles has had a more positive effect on my life than anything I have experienced with NLP. I was thinking of clipping the last few seconds or adding some clarification. I decided to leave it as it as a snapshot of my development.

“The abusive ratings of an uninformed bigot”

– Posted in: Psychology

It has been a surprise for me that some people do not understand the damage they can do, to their own reputation, when using on-line forums. Their anonymity allows them to communicate in a manner that would be outside their normal behaviour. You only have to look at the behaviour described as ‘Road Rage’ to know that the anonymity a car provides can enable considerable changes in a person’s conduct. The enraged people are oblivious to the effect that they may have on themselves and the people around them. For a professional to use social media to trash their own reputation, so publically, they must have something seemingly important on […]


– Posted in: Psychology, Wellbeing

I believe that our natural state is happy. The balance of endocrine system (hormones) is controlled by our mind - driven by our unconscious thoughts. Emotions, like happiness and fear, are names we give to our conscious awareness of the changes we feel. The feeling of adrenaline and cortisone; we call fear or excitement. The enjoyment created by neuro-transmitters such as and serotonin, dopamine and endorphins; we call happiness. Our experience of life is created from our minds, thoughts and consciousness. For instance, when we dream, we create a reality and then experience it. When we are awake, we create a reality using the same parts of our brain, the […]

A reality paradigm and an understanding for insight (Part 3).

– Posted in: Psychology, Success, Wellbeing

Insight. If we can slow our thoughts down, and let go of our unhelpful thoughts (and these are usually thoughts about thoughts about thoughts) we can create an amazing connection with the moment, with a person, or a group of people. By approaching a situation with nothing in mind, not thinking about the past or about the future and letting go of meaning we might have, we can have a much better experience of ‘the moment’ that when we are thinking too much. Sports men and women will say that they are in ‘the zone’; psychologists refer to a ‘state of flow’, a spiritualist ‘being at one with the universe’. […]

A reality paradigm and an understanding for insight. (Part 2)

– Posted in: Psychology, Success, Wellbeing

Understanding. Someone once asked me what I mean by “the feelings you are getting are caused by your thinking”. I explained that when we experience a feeling it is our consciously awareness of feedback from our nervous system. This could be touching something with our fingers, feeling the heat of the sun on our face, or noticing a change in the balance of our endocrine system (body chemistry). For instance, ‘butterflies’ in our stomach, or our stomach ‘turning over’, as we notice a dangerous situation. The intensity of a feeling will vary according to where we focus our attention. We can notice the feeling of our clothes on our skin, […]

A reality paradigm and an understanding for insight (Part 1)

– Posted in: Psychology, Success, Wellbeing

Paradigm I use the word “Paradigm” as a description of a perceptual point of view. For example, if a person were to draw the digit three (3) on a square piece of paper, put it on the floor and have four people stand around it, one on each side, each one of them would have a different experience. Each person would describe what he or she saw differently to the others three. Therefore, there would be four different descriptions for what they saw: 1. a ‘3’, 2. an ‘m’, 3. a ‘w’ 4. and a badly drawn “E”. Therefore, the definition I am using of a Paradigm is; a set […]